10 ways to cope when you ‘want to love but are afraid of getting hurt’

1. Know clearly what your heart is afraid of.

When we want to love but we are afraid, the first thing is to know clearly what we are afraid of. Try asking yourself a simple question: Are some people afraid of being rejected? Or afraid of wasting time with the wrong person? Some people are afraid of being hurt like the แทงบอล UFABET ราคาดีที่สุด ไม่มีขั้นต่ำ last time? When we know that “Oh, so this is what I am afraid of”, it will help us to deal with our fears much better. And don’t forget that feeling afraid of getting hurt is very normal. It’s not just us, but everyone who has loved is afraid as well.

TIP: Try writing down your fears clearly. Sometimes, when you see them in writing, you may not feel as scary as you thought.

2. Look at new love as a life experience.

Instead of looking at love as gaining or losing someone, try to look at it as an experience that makes us grow. Love is like a lesson that no matter how it ends, we always learn something new about ourselves. Try to focus on the present instead of worrying about “what will happen in the end.” Enjoy the good times you have now and practice letting go sometimes because life is full of uncertainty. If we wait for everything to be certain, we may never start anything.

3. Build self-confidence

Do you know why some people are not afraid of love? Because they are confident in themselves. Try to start by loving yourself first. When we love ourselves, we are not afraid that others will not love us. And don’t forget to believe in your own worth. You are worthy and deserving of good love. There is no need to accept a bad relationship because you are afraid that no one will love you. You should also set clear boundaries. Know what is acceptable and what is not. Having clear boundaries will help protect our hearts very well.

TIP: Try writing down 10 of your good qualities and read them every morning to remind yourself that you are a lovable and valuable person.

4. Open your heart little by little.

No one says we have to be 100% open-hearted from day one. Opening up gradually is ok. Start by giving yourself a chance to get to know someone. Don’t rush to decide whether you like them or not. Try to talk about your feelings directly. Tell the other person what you are afraid of and worried about. The right person will understand and give you time. Then gradually build trust, which takes time to build. Try to observe whether the other person does what they say, if they keep their promises. Give time to this step. Don’t rush.

5. If it’s too difficult, remember that there are people who can help.

Sometimes your fears stem from deeper wounds from your past. If they feel overwhelming, try reaching out to someone close to you, such as a trusted close friend, an understanding sibling or parent, a guidance counselor or school psychologist, or adolescent psychologists. There’s no shame in asking for help—it’s about showing courage and taking responsibility for yourself.

Finally…don’t forget that overcoming fear takes time and courage. Take it step by step, don’t rush, and don’t put pressure on yourself. In fact, the chance to find good and beautiful love is worth the fear we have to face. Because in the end, the most regrettable thing is not daring to try. “We want to love, but we’re afraid of getting hurt. But love is like a journey. We may not know where it will end. But if we don’t dare to step out, we may never find the beauty that awaits us. The one who has to choose is yourself.”